Apr 16, 2013 - Relationships    No Comments

Moving on from a relationship?

When a relationship takes a turn for the worse how do we move on and let go of the connection and love we once had? Whether it’s a dear friendship or a romantic courtship, the loss of a relationship can be something that is very hard to overcome. Especially if the relationship you’ve lost is with someone who is a major part of your social circle.

My first thought would be to keep your distance from this person. Creating distance can give you as well as the other person time to grow and accept the change of the relationship. However in the means of creating distance, this can also create hard feelings and unwarranted assumptions by others. So where creating distance can be an effective approach, I advise that you be very careful and selective on choosing this method.

Another approach is to spend time more time with friends and family. These are the people who love and support you. Spending time with your friends and family will help you keep your mind away from the loss until you’re able to work through it on your own. However, you should be careful not to use your family and friends as an outlet to channel all your grief and pain. I would recommend seeing a counselor if you are having trouble processing and compartmentalizing your feelings.

One thing that has always helped me is finding a healthy hobby to enjoy. When you take time for yourself and spend time doing something you enjoy your mind has the flexibility to process and think about your feelings. It is almost similar to a form of meditation. You’re able to relax and work through your emotions in a healthy and calming way, and more importantly you can do this on your own time.

Live life to the fullest and do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself. Where ever you find yourself in your current relationships I hope that you find the joy in every day. Remember today is all that you have so always make the best of it.


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