“I have had problems with my family for sometime now. I have recentlly started building a better relationship with my parents but I am still having a hard time with my brother we don’t have much in common which makes it hard. Any ideas on how I could help build that relationship as well? ~Richard”
Your relationship with your parents no matter how different you’re views or beliefs might be is the most import relationship you will ever have. It’s so important to maintain and build, they know you better than you know yourself and will always have your best interest at heart.
Finding a solution to help ease the tension between you and your brother will be difficult. My suggestion is to just give it time. Make yourself available to him when he wants to spend time hanging out and be sure he knows you want to do the same.
You might have to sacrifice you’re feelings and time to do something he wants to do. But make sure that he doesn’t always get his way. Building a good relationship takes compromise.
If you want to do something else other then what he’s suggested try passively suggesting another activity. If you let him know that you understand the importance of his idea (this being the activity that he has in mind), it will be easy for you to modify the decision (or activity) without him fully knowing that you’re changing the whole scenario. Then maybe he will be open to another activity and you will be able to spend time together doing something you will enjoy as well. I understand that this could lead into an argument but if you phrase it in such a way that he knows you’re being true and not selfish then I think it will work it’s self out.