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Feeling Alone

“I don’t really have anyone close to me that I can talk to. This of course is my fault because I know that I have a problem of letting people get close to me. I feel so alone a lot of time because of this. What is someone to do that always keeps people at a distance? ~Emily”

Dear Emily,

There are many reasons why people keep others at an arm’s length; the fear of rejection and loss being the most prevalent. People will avoid making relationship to prevent being hurt. But in the long run these people are doing more damage than they realize. It’s so important to have and maintain good and healthy relationships with others. Not just for the care and support they can provide you with but more importantly the accountability. When we find ourselves accountable to no one, often times this is when we get into the most trouble.

Start with something small. Like a coworker or someone you see on a regular basis. Try and garden that relationship and hopefully it will grow into a strong friendship. However, if it doesn’t don’t get discouraged; there are many fish in the sea.

By nature we as humans are social creatures. We all long for companionship, whether it’s with a spouse or a close friend, we need that connection. The fact that you are noticing this about yourself is wonderful. You are taking charge and striving to mature and grow into the person you will be in the future. I hope you find someone soon that will be a true friend to you. Someone that you trust and that you can talk to and who will be willing to listen; and more importantly who will want to.

Keep your eyes open, you never know who’s around the corner.

Jun 29, 2012 - Priorities    7 Comments


Time is the father of truth, its mother is our mind. Giordano Bruno

Many people focus their minds on time. If you take a step back and look at many of the clichés we hear every day about time you’ll notice that many of them carry the thought of concern; there’s no time like the present, time heals all wounds, time is running out, in the nick of time, time is money, time is of the essence. So my question is “Where is the focus of your mind?”

People will sit at their breakfast tables, sit in their living rooms, or sit in their cars just staring out the window. It seems like some people spend many of their days waiting for their nights, and many of their nights waiting for their days. I know personally I’ve spent many hours sitting in front of the television as a way of escape and to past the time. But then again I’m not really living if I’m just waiting for time to pass. There are some people who never have enough time, they’re going, going, and going and are so busy doing, they don’t allow for a stillness in their mind; a time to reflect on their day to see if it’s been fulfilling their desires.

For most of us, time lacks a physical reality. Time is not something we can feel or hold in our hands, we cannot hear it or smell it. Time is always fleeting, unstoppable and undeniable in its passing. When we look at our lives we usually look at them in weeks or months or years, but we should be focusing just on one day at a time.

Within each day there is an opportunity to grow. The opportunity we’re meant to have today cannot be had tomorrow. Just as the opportunity we could have had yesterday cannot be had today. Each day has its own unique work related to a specific aspect of your life that needs growth. By taking every opportunity you’re presented with, you grow into the person you are and the person you will become. We should picture every day, every hour, and every minute as a gift. Every day is filled with new experiences and potential and is scheduled for great things.

So should we continue to draw through our actions and consciousness and live our lives step after step after step just so time will pass? Or should we take steps, one after the other to building success and happiness? Think about one thing that you keep putting off. Ask yourself why. Are you afraid it won’t work out the way you want it to? Are you putting it off because you don’t want to apply the effort? At the end of every day, when you go to sleep, if you have missed your opportunity, you have missed a chance to grow.

Remember that TIME is not just a cool magazine, but it’s measured with birthdays, anniversaries, height-markings on the wall, laugh-lines, stretch marks, footprints, wood carvings, and the unending inevitability of change. And with each measurement there is an abundance of joy to be had. Keep your mind focused on what’s important and don’t waste it focusing on things beyond your control.


“One man has enthusiasm for thirty minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the man who has it for 30 years who makes a success of his life.” ~ Edward Butler