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Aug 15, 2013 - Mental Health    No Comments

Agree to Accept

We have to agree to accept the past as it is. No one can change the past and we shouldn’t dwell on it. However, just because we know we cannot change it and we know we shouldn’t dwell on it, sometimes putting the past out of our mind is not always the easiest thing.

The reason I say “agree” to accept is because acceptance means you have come to the realization of a truth and are at terms with it, but that doesn’t mean you agree with it. You only agree when you think something is being done or has been done the way you consider appropriate and convenient for you.

For example, let’s say you have claimed compensation from a company of $1000. They may offer you $600. You may accept that $600 is all that you’ll get all the while not agreeing that it’s reasonable.

If we can agree with the circumstances of our past that we know are true, then maybe we can start walking down that road to forgetting and moving on.

No matter what burdens you bare, or where life leads you I hope you’re always at peace with who you are and where you’ve come from. You are a beautiful person and deserving of all the joy that you can find in this world.

Wishing you all the best.
~John

Jul 25, 2013 - Mental Health    No Comments

Are my feelings my own?

Do you ever feel upset or frustrated and you have no idea why? There can be many reasons why you feel that way. It could be something recently that’s happened and you’re not aware of it. It might be a past struggle that’s surfacing, or maybe it’s not really your feelings’ that’s causing discomfort but rather it’s someone you know.

This is found many times in children and it starts at a young age. They will assimilate the successes or failures of their parents and this can sometimes be very harmful. Many times we take the experiences of others and apply them to our own life. It’s good and noble to be aware of other people and want to support and aid them any way we can. However, we need to understand that other people’s problems and struggles are theirs and not ours. We need to learn to separate ourselves and not allow those feelings to becoming a part of our own life.

If this is something you’re struggling with I want to encourage you to take some time for yourself and spend it meditating, think about where your feelings are coming from. If you find out their not really yours but someone else’s, work at letting those feelings go. It can be very difficult letting those feelings go, especially if you’ve had them for a long time. They can become a part of you and letting them go can be very scary.

First, start out taking small steps each day to uncover what feelings you have most and soon you will be able to notice were your feelings are truly coming from.

~John

Feb 28, 2013 - Mental Health    No Comments

Why am I depressed?

“I was thinking about seeing a doctor, I think that I might be clinically depressed. Sometimes I’m just sad and I can’t put a finger on why. I cry maybe ten times a week for no reason other than I’m sad. I just hurt for no reason. Nothing terrible has happened to me. I have an amazing life, and I feel guilty for hating life sometimes and I often just want it to end. Not that I have ever seriously thought about taking my own life. I really don’t, I just sometimes want life to end (if that makes sense). I’ve always been closed to my siblings and I’ve tried talking with them, but it seems like they really don’t care or they just won’t listen and they just want to lecture me. I feel trapped. ~Drake”

Dear Drake,

Your desire for life to end is a very common feeling. I myself have had that feeling more than once. But no matter how I feel the decision for life to end is not for me to decide. All I have to decide is what to do with the time that I have. No matter how alone we might feel there are always things that are positive and good. And that is an encouraging thought. We just have to be aware of them, or work at taking notice.

I’m reminded of this quote, “Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.” This is how we should view time. If we spend our time in love then time becomes irrelevant. We should spend our time loving people, and loving ourselves. This way of thinking will develop in time. Just keep taking those steps each day and you will get there.

We are physical beings and because so, we have many physical trials that we must face, depression being one of those. Visiting with a doctor is a smart and healthy idea. Sometimes it’s nothing more than a slight imbalance of chemicals in your brain, which can sometimes be helped by a change in diet or exercise. But if there is something bigger going on then it’s important to know that as well.

Siblings sometimes have a way of setting aside the seriousness of our troubles. This is not because they don’t care, but that they are somewhat molded to your character. So if you’re upset a lot they might just write that off as Drake being Drake. But I’m sure if you really needed for them to listen, they will. You may have to be a little creative in the way you approach them so they know you’re serious, but they will listen. I’m sure they love you very much and probably more than you realize.

Tomorrow is a new day and you have this opportunity each day to start fresh. So take it a day at a time and you will see the light at the end of this tunnel.
~John

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