My friend was in the barber chair and the barber was trimming away. Sitting a few seats down from me was a young man no more than 25 years of age. He sat there patiently and quietly waiting for his turn, and giving extra effort to sit there unnoticed. Once he was in the barber’s chair he got a big smile on his face and started talking like he hadn’t talked in years, and he continued to talk until the barber finished. He then slowly got out of the chair, said “Thank you.” and with the same depressed demeanor as before and without saying a word he paid the clerk and left. “Why did he seem so enthusiastic to talk to the barber and no one else?” I gathered that they weren’t relatives or friends on account that they introduced each other when they met.
There is an understood and unspoken bond of trust between you and your barber. You trust them to style and shape your hair into what the rest of the world will see. Giving your barber this trust tells them that you’re putting your appearance in their hands. With this trust grows an atmosphere of warmth. There becomes an established bond between you and your barber of unbiased opinion that lets you feel safe. That is the reason why many people share their lives and world with the people tasked to make them look appealing to it. People develop strong relationships with whoever they spend a majority of their time with. Whether it’s in their families or work places people search for friendship. But what if someone doesn’t have a strong family life or they work in an unfriendly environment? Who are these people going to talk to?
If you’ve never help feed the poor I suggest you do. They always love to talk, and it’s not because they’re hoping you’ll show them generosity but that you’ll listen to what they say. I believe this need to be heard spans from the fast growing selfishness of the world. The world is turning into a very un-personable place. We have Facebook, and self-service checkouts lines so that we don’t have to look at each other in the face. It is human nature to place ourselves above others, which in turn makes those selfish people unappealing to those that are in need. There are countless people striving to find someone to talk to and most often than not these people go unheard. We all remember what it was like in grade school. We would anxiously give a note to a girl or boy asking them if they liked us. We acted this way when we were children because it was more comfortable then talking face to face. The note would read,
A phone call now days can be a real encouragement to people. When you text it’s a way of avoidance. This is not to say that texting is wrong. But there is a time and place for everything. I encourage you to give someone a call rather than sending a text. I encourage you to be willing to listen to someone you haven’t listened to before. The Big Picture here is that many people are striving for relationships anywhere they can find them and all people are in need of friendship and love.
Often times the most successful marriages and best of friends are those who really listen to one another. Try to carry yourself in a way that is inviting. Don’t walk with you head down; no one wants to talk to someone that’s in the dumps. Positivity is a very attractive quality and people are drawn to it. Strive to be one of those and you will be blessed.